As you all know, once you have kids your personal time diminishes significantly and with that most often goes quality time with your spouse. A wise woman, my mama, told me when I first became pregnant with B that I would need to find a way to spend time with J (my husband) and that date nights were a MUST HAVE.
Don’t get me wrong we love date nights, but when you have a few little ones running around at home, date nights become quite the challenge. And although J and I manage to get a date night in once every couple of months, that just isn’t enough to keep us together and in sync.
Now I have never been to marriage counseling, nor am I a marriage counselor but a good friend of mine picked up this tidbit of information from a couples retreat and I wanted to share.
All you need is ten minutes once a week! You would be amazed at what ten minutes can do. I absolutely look forward to our ten minutes each week!
The idea is to spend ten minutes once a week together. Ten minutes! The great thing is that you don’t have to leave your home and you don’t have to spend money. You can try any of the following or come up with your own. I love this because it forces us to make time for each other and allows us to step out of day-to-day routines and just talk, relax, and be TOGETHER.
Here are a few things that you can do with your spouse in 10 minutes or less that will totally change-up your marriage.
My husband is not a fan of dancing AT ALL, but this has quickly become our go to. We take turns picking out music or we pick it out together. Some weeks it’s simply a couple of slow songs and silence. Others it may include a bottle of wine or trying to learn the Two Step. Sometimes we just turn it on a favorite radio station, talk, and dance.
I can’t explain it, but it does wonders.
Sitting Outside/ Laying in a Hammock
When it is nice outside, this is our absolute favorite. We sit outside on the back porch or lay in the hammock and just talk. If you let ALL of your “hats” fall away, even for those ten minutes, it can almost feel as if you are dating again. Do you remember what it was like when you were dating?!?!
For me it seemed like planning and dreaming, and talking about our hopes, wishes, goals, and priorities. Now that we are living out parts of our dream, it’s fun to reflect and make new ones!
Mini Book Club or Devotional
You can read something on your own and then spend a few minutes once a week discussing it, or do a devotional together. Either way you will be talking and sharing ideas together. You may even learn something new about each other through this process.
Make Dinner Together
Once the kids have been fed, teeth have been brushed, and prayers have been said, hop back into the kitchen and cook something up together. Not only will you get to spend kid-free time together in the kitchen,but you’ll also get to enjoy a nice quiet dinner together as well. This one may take a little longer than ten minutes, but it will be well worth it.
Well, there you have it! In ten minutes or less and without leaving your home, you can bring a little spark back into your marriage. Don’t stress if you miss a week or if you find yourself doing the same thing over and over. We have been on a dancing kick for months and although it’s the same activity the music is never the same and I absolutely look forward to it.
If you have any other ideas for quick mini dates, I would love to hear them!
Remember to just have fun, relax, and enjoy being together!