The title says it all with this one ya’ll. How many of you desperately crave 5 or even 10 minutes of peace and quiet now and then? But the moment you do get it, you are immediately overwhelmed with guilt. For me this is an ongoing struggle. There are days when I so badly want to sneak away for some me time as soon as my husband walks through the door, but immediately feel guilty.
Some days it’s because I know my husband had a hard day at the office. Others it’s because I know the kids are terribly cranky. The truth is I can make a million excuses, even when I truly just need 10 minutes before my head explodes. Ever felt like that?
While talking with a great friend this week I realized just how big of an issue this truly is and not just for me. I am desperately trying to get in shape, lose baby weight, and maybe run a 5K or two this summer, so we have become accountability partners, trying to encourage one another to run at least a few times a week. Which I highly recommend for anyone that is trying to get into shape. Whether you are competitive (I’m not but she is :)) or not, an accountability partner can help motivate you and keep you working towards your goal, even with a simple text message!
While talking, we both expressed how bad we feel leaving our kids home with our husbands so that we can go run, but at the same time how much we both NEED and enjoy that little bit of Me Time. And isn’t that so true.
Whether you are at home with your children all day or you work full-time away from home, I’m sure that you also find yourself facing the Me Time versus Mommy Guilt conundrum.
Today I am here to tell you:
You are NOT alone! We all feel that way, sneaking away for a pedicure, going for a run, or even going to the grocery store solo, can leave a mom with some crazy guilt. Ladies, it shouldn’t. You are entitled and deserve a few minutes alone in peace doing whatever strikes your fancy.
Me Time is a MUST. In order to give your family everything you have, you have to have something to give. Sometimes that means a soak in the tub, a night out with girl friends, heading to the gym, or going to see a movie. Do something for yourself, you need it!
They will survive. The house, the kids, the pets, and your husband will survive. So relax and enjoy a few minutes just for YOU.
So the next time you are overwhelmed with mom guilt, take a deep breath and remember that your sanity is important and you need this time. Mom guilt is okay, it means you care about your kids just don’t let it discourage you from the quiet time you so dearly deserve.
While it is easy for me to type those words actually following through is much more difficult and a constant struggle. I would love to hear how you combat mommy guilt and what me time activities you enjoy!