On my journey to becoming a better mom, being a Hands Free Mama, to managing my time better, and to balancing life, I’ve learned and re-learned a little about myself. I’ve learned that one of my greatest faults is that I am Type A through and through. Over the next few months, I plan to try to change that. By making small changes each month, I hope to let go of my perfectionist ways and embrace the season that I am in. My goal is to live in the moment, and letting go of perfectionism is the first step.
Letting Go of Perfectionism
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being Type A or being a perfectionist. I have embraced it.
Hi my name is Dani Wagner, and I the poster child for Type A personality!
There are things about being Type A that I love and have no desire to change. But then there are the aspects that hold me back from being the mom I want to be.
Those are the aspects that I MUST change.
I want to be able to walk away from my dirty kitchen and spend 30 minutes building a fort with my girls before nap. To watch them squeal as they get more bubbles on the floor and counter than they do on the dishes they are trying to wash. I want to encourage them to help and not care if their drawers are a mess and the clothes are not folded just right.
Most of all, I want my daughters to have the courage to try anything without the fear of being perfect.
In order to reach my goal I am trying to make small changes each month. Similar to the Hands Free Journey, which you can read about here, here, and here. I want to change my approach, my attitude, and my routines slowly and gradually so that they stick. So that I can truly let go of perfectionism in all the right ways!
The first step that I am going to take on this journey is to let my kids help with chores. My girls love to help and I often don’t let them because they make a bigger mess than necessary. Over the next month I want to include them more in the little things that I do day-to-day.
I want to let them be a part of those smaller tasks, let them see what chores are like, and to have fun with them while we are doing it. Chores like loading and unloading the washer and dryer, washing dishes, folding and putting clean clothes away are all things that we can do together.
The goal here is to let go!
This month (and all months in the future):
- I will not worry about clothes being folded perfectly.
- Messy drawers will be tolerated and even smiled at.
- Soapy water and bubbles will be expected and encouraged while the girls are having fun and helping with the dishes.
This is the first step, the first step in letting go, stepping away from my perfectionist ways. This is the first step in embracing the moment and cherishing this time with my girls.
How to do let go of your perfectionist tendencies? How do you embrace a Type A personality with a home full of kids?
I would love to have you come on this journey with me! Let’s learn to let go of perfectionism and embrace the season that we are in.