Welcome to the second Letting Go of Perfectionism post. If you missed last month (Letting Go of Perfectionism Step 1) , I am here to fill you in. I am on a personal mission to help squash some of my perfectionist and OCD characteristics to help me live a more fun, in the moment life with my family.
Each month, I am taking small steps to let go of certain tasks or ideas. I am finding ways to let me kids get involved and to be OKAY with it. To update you on my progress since last month, I struggled. I am going to be completely honest with you, I struggled a lot in the beginning.
The girls have taken over washing breakfast dishes just about every day now and sometimes even lunch (hooray right?!). There is always a puddle of water on the floor, suds just about everywhere, water all over the counter top, and they are sometimes even soaked. All of those are easily fixed and thus as Pete the Cat would say, “it’s all good“! They splash, they play, the wash, the sing, and they have fun! In the end, it takes me a few minutes to wipe everything down and it’s all done!
They have also started helping me with laundry. This is probably my biggest struggle. I’m one of those people who believes everything has a place, which makes finding things easy. I like to keep it that way. Allowing my 3-year-old twins to fold and put away clothes means that their drawers are a hot mess. Do they care? NO! Will they mess them up tomorrow when they can’t find their favorite shirt? YES! So why not let them help!
Because it drives me crazy!!!
What I’ve learned this month is that if I never have to look in their drawers, then I won’t know how disorganized they are. Problem solved!
Moving on to this month’s challenges, I really want to work on being able to step away from something and come back to it at a more opportune time. Again, it’s just part of who I am, but as soon as dinner is over my brain says okay let’s get this kitchen clean, then we can do X, Y, or Z.
I have such a hard time leaving the kitchen as is so that we can run outside for a quick walk before the sun goes down or start the movie the girls have been patiently waiting to watch all day. In all honesty, the dishes can wait. The kitchen, dishes, and table can all be cleaned up once they’ve gone to bed. It won’t kill me to just push-off cleaning up a little longer so that we can all snuggle and watch a movie.
It won’t kill me, but sometimes it feels like it might!
I can’t lie to you, if you are following along with me on this, I cheated a little. I’ve already started working on this one, just a little. We’ve been able to sneak out for a few walks after dinner before it gets too dark, which has been awesome! Most of the time I sent J and the girls out first, while I clean up, then I join them later. ONCE I just left the kitchen as it was!
So in addition to stepping away from an activity and coming back to it later (and it can be any activity, not just the dishes), I have a few other missions for you this month:
- Allow your kids to set the table. Show them once or twice how to fold napkins and properly place silverware (if you are in to that kind of thing), then let that become their gig each night.
- Allow your kids to help you cook/bake. Yes, they will make a huge mess! Yes, they will want to touch and eat everything! Cooking/baking is a great way to introduce them to math concepts and is a great way for them to start learning.
- Allow your kids to help you load the dishwasher. It doesn’t matter if they put their forks in the wrong way, or if they misplace their plates. It’s a great way to encourage them to help and to help them learn.
I would love to hear your successes and failures as you let go of your perfectionism. In what areas do you need more support? What are your biggest struggles?
More next month,